The Relationship That Shapes Them All
Why nurturing my own heart is the most important connection I will ever tend to.
I used to think love was something I had to earn from others. That if I gave enough, proved enough, stayed long enough, then I’d finally feel seen, held, worthy.
But the older I get, the clearer it becomes: every relationship I have begins with the one I have with myself.
When I treat myself with compassion, I teach others how to treat me. When I honour my boundaries, I show the world that my peace matters. And when I choose kindness over criticism in how I speak to myself, something softens, and love flows more freely, because I’ve already learned to give it to myself first.
The way I see myself becomes the lens for everything else.
If I see myself as worthy, I won’t settle for half-love or half-effort.
If I see myself as capable, I won’t shrink in the face of a challenge.
If I see myself as whole, I’ll stop searching for someone else to complete me.
And here’s the truth midlife keeps teaching me: I am the standard.
Not in an arrogant way, but in a deeply grounded one. The relationship I build with my own heart sets the tone for all the others.
So today, I choose to nurture it. To respect it. To let it grow strong enough that I no longer accept anything less than what I deserve.
Because Love, when I love myself fully, everything else, every connection, every choice, every season of my life, begins to flow from there.
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A reflection for you:
What would shift in your relationships if you began speaking to yourself the way you long to be spoken to?
A tiny ritual to try:
Stand in front of a mirror. Place your hand on your heart. Whisper one thing you admire about yourself. Repeat it daily until it feels less like practice and more like truth.
Kiran x
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